Thursday, March 3, 2011

Just... Wow..

I will start with a little back story:

My friend and I have known each other for eight years. She was one of my bridesmaids and we have always been close. I know she didn't always make very good choices, but I always hoped she would change. Before she started dating hubby's cousin, her longest relationship was a month. And then she would always end up cheating and they would break up and she would go sleep around with who ever she could. Then she was kicked out of her house in October, so Alex and I decided she could live with us, but only if she made some positive changes in her life. She told me she wanted to change and she didn't want to be sleeping around with guys. I called her mom to figure out why she was kicked out and it was because she was treating her mom like trash. So I guess it was only a matter of time until the vicious cycle came around to us...

She was basically engaged (I say that because he was planning on asking her to marry him this month) to my husband's cousin (they had started dating in June 2010. They had wanted to date each other for almost two years, but it always seemed that one or the other had a boyfriend/girlfriend so it didn't work out until this past year.). She cheated on him the end of January; then the begining of February dumped him because "she wasn't ready to grow up." Two days later, she was with the other guy (whom she had cheated with) and moved out of our house into his mom's (while he lived with foster parents in another town). Then after she moved out (ok, well I kicked her ass out), she tried telling me that her and Alex "did stuff." I KNOW that he would NEVER cheat on me; especially with her (I know this because he is extremely racist and she is mexican. NO OFFENSE to anyone, but that's just how my husband is.). So its been a whole messed up thing and we haven't talked in a month. I talked with her mom a few times. and she had talked to my friend's new boyfriend's foster mom. I guess the foster mom over heard him talking with my friend saying he was going to drop out of school when he turned eighteen and he was telling her that if she got pregnant, the government would give her more money. Great...

Well my so called "friend" was a bitch to me today... She texted me this morning to tell me she was pregnant (I guess I should have known it was coming). I asked her what she was going to do and she said she was going to keep it. Ok, fine, whatever. So I stated that neither of them had jobs, vehicles, or any way of being able to care for a baby. Not to mention that from birth to eighteen years will cost about $250k. And she said I didn't have to be a bitch about it. I said that I was just giving her facts. She then preceded to tell me that if I didn't have anything positive to say, then don't say anything at all. I told her life isn't all positive, children are hard and will be life changing, they are a FOREVER choice. She then told me "at least I can get pregnant." Wow... BOMBSHELL... My heart skipped a beat, and I sunk to a new low. How could a "friend" that I have known for eight years; a "friend" who was a bride's maid; someone who I trusted and loved like my sister, say something like that to me...?

Apparently she got the Depo shot on February 8th (learning this from her mother. Her sister had actually taken her to Planned Parenthood to get it). So I don't know how exactly this happened. I am just hurt beyond words. I have decided to give up on her. I feel sorry for the kid because it is going to be raised up in a shitty home. She is going to be just like her dead beat boyfriend's mom; living off the government. She tried to get pregnant on purpose just so she could get more money from the government. Its ridiculous... And so god damn FRUSTRATING!

Alex's cousin had done so much for her too! His mom paid for her to go get her compass test so she could go to college. And he was going to buy her a car when her car broke down really bad one month. Then she throws it all away for some deadbeat who dropped out of school and they are living with his MOM (who doesn't do anything [also lives off the government and she doesn't even have a CAR!!] and has had several children taken away from her.). 

And for her to text me out of the blue and tell me she is pregnant and then be a total bitch to me was completely uncalled for.

I need a good stiff drink. But I can't because AF still isn't here and I don't know if I am pregnant or not. Dang...


  1. :( :( :( Stuff like this frustrates me SO much! We're always there for people and then when we can't exactly back them emotionally 1000 percent, they turn on us. You are right to at least make sure she knows what she's getting into. And there was nothing wrong with what you said and for her to take that blow.... I hate it! Someone did that to me once... I couldn't back their decision to be a home wrecker (my friend who had the affair with the man who already had 6 kids and was married)and she turned on me and said that she never again wanted to hear a negative thing about their relationship and I couldn't talk because of *insert mistake that I made here that was NOWHERE as bad as what she was doing* I was so mad at her, I had been there for her for 10 years and that's the treatment I got when I disagreed with something she was doing??

    I know it hurts, but it's probably healthier for you by far to just let her go!


  2. Wow I'm so sorry honey!!! You don't deserve to have to put up with her crazy shit!! She is ruining her life and that's her own problem. Don't take what she said to heart. It's so sad that there has to be people like that in this world. You are such a strong person and will get through this!!

  3. That's awful how she said that to you... hang in there x

  4. Thank you for the support ladies! It makes me feel a little better that I am not the only one and that I have someone to talk to and relate with :/ I felt like I was on Mars because who seriously does this kind of stuff?!!

  5. wow babe. ur so called "FRIEND" does not seem like a friend. Your ur strong and beautiful person and ur my best friend forever. im just a blog comment or text away always and forever babe. im always here for you and don't ever forget that. Let her go out of ur life, you don't need the extra stress. <3 i love u Hannah Bear.